Just Say No to Your Phone

Unfortunately, relationships end. Since we don't live in fairy tales, sometimes Prince charming ends up being a dick or maybe he found out that you weren't the nicest princess in the kingdom. Breaking up is hard, but what's really hard is trying not to call/text/email/tweet/poke your former boo. Maybe you're sitting at home watching a movie that used to be your movie and all of a sudden you're transported back to all the wonderful times you had before he said that he only dated you because he was trying to meet your hot friends and you said that you were a phony of the bedroom kind and you both said it was over. Well, here are six easy tips on how not to get in touch with your former.

Now if only there were six easy steps on how not to facebook stalk the girl you heard he was dating. Even though I showed you how to dig up dirt on the person you're dating, I don't suggest you do the same for the new girl.

Have Dating Rules for Women Really Changed that Much?

So while I was on Digg.com, I came across a photo story that showed dating rules for single women from the 1930s.

They had such rules as don't drink too much

Be ready before your date arrives

And don't get too emotional with your date while you're out.



Oddly enough a lot of the advice reminded me of advice I had seen in a Glamour magazine story. It made me wonder if dating rules for women have really changed. We all like to think that we're modern but are the dating behavioral rules for women really all that different? They all seem to be about catering to what the man wants and being "lady-like". What do you think: Have dating rules changed for women or are they the same?

Special: Lessons in Flirtling from an International Pick-Up Artist

So here's the scene: You're in the club and you see a hottie with a body that you absolutely can't take your eyes off of. What do you do? Picking up guys in clubs requires an extra special finesse that other settings (like a book store or a friend's party) don't call for. This is why I asked my friend the International Pick-Up Artist (she really is, her skills work across the world) to share some of her tactics.

First off, never go with the intent of picking up men. Your sole intent is to have fun with your girlfriends, dance it up and have a few drinks while you're at it. That being said, if you truly are having a good time and enjoying yourself, chances are, there's gonna be a cute guy eyein' you at some point. If someone does catch your fancy, my advice is, make eye contact. I know this is a given but some girls are too nervous to look a guy straight in the eye. I don't mean be all stalkerish but hold a glance for a second or two and let the edge of your mouth curl up; a little bit of a smile always helps. Once that initial contact has been made and you're ballsy enough to approach the man, from my experience, make silly conversation. Yeah, I said it, silly conversation. For example, if you catch the dude yawning say something like "late night for you?" or "that's not a yawn I see already is it?" If he seems like he's just kind of standing around ask him where his dance partner is or if he's afraid to bust out his best moves. If he doesn't smile or isn't intrigued in some way, he's not worth striking up a conversation with anyway. If he does bite (and he will, even if for just a few minutes) share a laugh and begin the conversation - who did you come here with? Have you been here before? What other places do you like to go to? Etc. From there, you should be able to get a vibe of whether or not you like this guy to continue the conversation and if he feels the same way.

So there you have it. With this advice, you should be able to end every night out with a fist full of numbers! Still unsure about how to implement these tactics? After watching the video below you'll be a pro. Happy Dating!

How To Flirt on Howcast

Can't Buy Me Love...But You Can Try!

It's a topic that everyone has talked about at least a few times in their lives, but few do so openly and honestly. When it comes to dating, does the number of commas in your date's bank account make them more attractive? Does money matter? Some women say "Absolutely not! My love is color blind which is why it doesn't matter this his credit card is black". But other women require a higher credit score than most banks do just to date them. So, I throw this question out to you: Does love taste better when it's eaten with a silver spoon?

Tiger Tiger Burning Bright, Having Affairs Always Causes Fights!

As if we need another person weighing in on the whole Tiger Woods debacle, but there's some thing else that I'd like to talk about: the fact that some of his mistresses want him to apologize to them. Banks can't trick people any more about their credit cards and mistresses want apologies from the people they cheat with? What the cuss?!? I think I have officially heard everything.

In all fairness, I can understand that these women feel hurt. Some of the members of Tiger's harem of them fell in love with Tiger and feel that he deceived them. Some of them want an apology because they feel that they don't deserve all the jokes, name calling and things like this being said about them. However, no one told them to get involved with a married man and to then go and share this information with the media. And because of all of this, some of Tiger's mistresses have gotten book deals, interviews and even jobs with Extra! So ladies, don't ask Tiger to apologize because if he did and you accepted it, it might make the situation even more awkward if you continued to benefit from your affair. The only person in this situation who really and truly deserves an apology is Elin Woods. Now that I've finished my rant, happy dating (and even happier dating if it's not with a married man)!

The Feet of All Jokes

Dear Guru,

I've been dating this great guy since the beginning of the winter. He's really sweet and we get along well. The only problem is that he has this weird foot fetish (like this really weird foot fetish thing), but I have ugly feet! Since it's winter time I've been able to hide them by wearing socks and saying that my feet are always cold but spring is just around the corner. I'm so scared that once he sees my feet he'll run the other way. Help, what should I do?!?

Sincerely,

Funny Feet

Dear Funny Feet,

I too know what it feels like to have ugly feet. I used to have pretty toes, but after years of abuse, I now have donkey hooves for feet. But with that said, whether you have ugly feet or not if the guy you've been seeing really likes you it shouldn't matter. No one's perfect and if someone really likes you, they'll like you for the person that you are and not the feet that you have. Also, you should take this situation and see it as an opportunity to improve your self confidence. Everyone has something that they wish they could change. In addition to having donkey hooves as feet, I also have the body of a twelve-year old boy. I'm super scrawny and have no curves at all, but I've gotten over it. Focus on your best qualities, fix what you can and learn how not to dwell on what you can't. In the meantime, here's a movie on how to make your toes pretty. Happy dating!

How To Give Yourself a Pedicure on Howcast

Creepy Crawly Creeps

Dear Guru,

I'm a 24 yr old female and don't date a lot AT ALL. I think its so contrived and creepy...is that normal? How many dates a week should I have be going on?

Thanks,

Creeped Out Over Creeps


Dear Creeped Out,

There's nothing abnormal with how you feel. Dating can be really daunting at times. The process of going out, meeting someone and then going on dates isn't as simple as they make it look in movies and television shows. It's weird and creepy to sit there with someone that you don't really know with the expectation that you're going to share yourself with them. Even sharing the most insignificant detail can be nerve wracking. If I don't know you, than you don't need to know that I got that scar on my left knee because I ate it while riding my bike when I was nine. That's a personal detail and no matter how unimportant that detail is, it still feels disconcerting to share that detail just because that's just what you "do" when you date. And yes, the whole situation can feel contrived. The whole "I'm out on a date getting to know you getting to know me" can feel like a bad scene out of a tacky rom com. But, with that said, it probably feels creepy because you're not that into that person. Not to sound like an after-school special, but if you really like someone getting to know them and letting them get to know you won't feel weird.

As for how many dates you should have a week, there's no magic number. I say as many as you want. When it comes to dating, I want your theme song to be "Boyz, Boyz, Boyz". But don't feel like you if you're not out being a lady about town that you're a loser. Sometimes it's better to not date than to date a loser for the sole purpose of saying that you went on a date.

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How to Seduce Someone!

If you read the title of this post, do I really need to say more?!?

Read this article from The Frisky or try these suggestions from Wiki-How and tell me what you think.

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Valentines Day Redemption

I hate Valentine’s Day. I hate it because every year, in the days leading up to Valentine’s Day, I become hopeful… hopeful that someone will come into the scene and sweep me off my feet. Ever hopeful that some tall, dark and handsome man will tell me that he loves me madly, and couldn’t bare the thought of living without me. I exist in a state of romantic euphoria, waiting for that T.D.H.M. (tall, dark and handsome man) to burst into my life. I wait, and I wait, and I wait. And I wait some more. I wait until finally I realize that just like the year before, no one is coming for me. No one is waiting with roses and candy. There will be no one holding that coveted blue Tiffany’s box full of jewelry. Once again, Cupid has forsaken me.PLEASE!!!” We are those at the grocery store who frown furiously when we see two lovebirds flittering through the cereal aisle. We are the ones who wish we could take our Valentine’s Day induced rage out on those that are lucky enough to have found love.

I’ll never forget a particular Valentine’s Day when I was in high school. As I walked down the hall with that “love me PLEASE!!!” look on my face, I saw this girl walking toward me holding the biggest brown teddy bear I’d ever seen, so enormous that she was struggling to carry it. Suddenly the rage with in me started to bubble over. I wanted to take my aggression out on her. I wanted to trip her, take the bear and run. As she came closer and closer, I saw the exact spot on her leg where a minimal amount of effort on my part would cause a maximum amount of pain on her part. A sneaky little voice in the back of my head taunted me, telling me how easy it would be. But in the end, I couldn’t go through with it. “Why should she have to take the brunt of my rage?” I asked myself. Me wanting to trip her was just a manifestation of my bitter feelings of being alone.

I get those feelings of bitterness and loneliness every Valentine’s Day. I even feel despair. Despair at the fact that I’ll probably have to endure many more Valentine’s Days alone, finishing off a whole cheesecake on my own (I don’t recommend doing this, my worst stomach ache ever ensued). I fear that my single status will spread beyond Valentine’s Day and into the rest of my life.

I can already picture it. When I get older, I’ll be the Cat Lady. You know the one that I’m talking about… the lady that lives in a tiny house reeking of used kitty litter, with nothing but her seventeen cats to comfort her. What makes this vision even more pathetic is the fact that I’m horribly allergic to cats. My eyes swell shut and my nose perpetually drips snot. My love life will become so dire that I’ll have to resort to spending my time with a bunch of creatures that make me deathly ill. There I’ll be, with my seventeen cats and my eternally snotty nose.

But even though my romantic future looks bleak, and although at times it seems that the only way I’ll ever get a date is if I go out with some smelly, leisure-suit wearing predator of a man with halitosis, I still keep hope alive. I may not find my sweetheart today, or tomorrow, or three years from now. It may not happen for another five years, but one day I’m certain some one will love me. Some one will do back flips for me, snatch up the moon and stars just to please me; some one will appreciate me for the neurotic, dramatic, silly person that I am.

Deep down I can’t really hate Valentine’s Day. I will admit that the only reason I despise it so is because I’ve always been jealous of those who are fortunate enough to have someone they care for, just as they are cared for. I’ve always been terribly annoyed by the fact that it was so hard for me and so easy for them. But I’ve changed. This Valentine’s Day, I’d like to turn over a new leaf, and a new heart. I vow to cast my bitter feelings and self-pity aside. I will look on the brighter side of things, and if I should come across a girl carrying a giant teddy bear, I won’t contemplate tripping her and grabbing her bear. I’ll just think about snatching the bear. Hey… don’t get mad! You can’t expect me to change over night!



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Lip Service Parte Trois

We're back at it again! In our pursuit to eradicate the world or bad kissers here is another kissing tutorial so that the next time you lock lips (whether it's with that special someone or someone that you think is special for that one night only) you'll know that you did a job well done! Happy Dating...and kissing!

How To Kiss With Confidence on Howcast

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Gift Limbo

Dear Guru,

Is it ok to give a guy something (a gift or make him present to be precise) for Valentine's day if you've only been dating for less than 2 months?

Sincerely,
Loving in Los Angeles


Dear Loving,

You are officially in Gift Limbo. Gift Limbo is when an important day that under normal circumstances would warrant gifting giving but since you a) haven't been dating for a significant amount of time or b)your status as a couple is "complicated" it is unclear whether giving a gift would seem appropriate. It's hard when you want to show someone that you care, but only just kind of. And I feel that Valentines day is especially tricky. Too much and you look like you've already picked out the colors for your wedding, but too little and you're boo for sure will have a stink face like "oh is this all I'm worth?" That's why you should give the No Fail Gift: A single Flower.

A single flower is perfect because it can be tailored to fit everyone's taste (just find out what they're favorite flower is), is appropriate for all occasions from birthdays to funerals and it shows that you care...enough. So this Valentines Day when he picks you up, hand him that single long stem red rose and watch him melt a bit as you enjoy the feeling of getting out of gift limbo. Happy Dating!



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The Breakup Artist

So, I was reading this article about Boston-Based divorce lawyer extraordinaire Gerald Nissenbaum on The Frisky who in his pursuit to prevent divorces has come up with tips on how to keep an affair secret. Such pointers like not taking your cell phone with you on secret rendezvous (because of those pesky GPS chips that can be activated by spouses)and covering your tracks are just a few that were provided. Nissenbaum also has a book, Sex, Love, and Money: Revenge and Ruin in the World of High-Stakes Divorce about his life and times as a divorce lawyer for the people who weren't smart enough to cover their tracks.

For all you cheaters out there, how do you cover your tracks?

The Carnivores Dilemma

Dear Guru,

I’m a meat eater. I love meat. I love meat so much that I wrap my meat with meat. My conscience has never suffered from my carnivorous ways so much so that I can eat veal without even flinching. Now, my boyfriend is a vegetarian. He hates meat and thinks that people who eat it are evil. If he had his way, the whole world would never be allowed to eat anything that once had a face. He’s so committed to his vegetarianism that he’s contemplating becoming a vegan and already won’t eat anything that has milk, eggs or cheese in it. We both love to eat out but constantly fight over where to go. In my effort to be more understanding, I’ve been going to more vegetarian restaurants but they’re all super gross. Got any suggestions on where we both can dine?

Sincerely,

Just Plain Hungry

Dear Hungry,

Now that vegetarianism has been mainstream for many years, there are quite a few restaurants that have great options that are tasty and meat free. One of my absolute favorite places is Maoz. This casual vegetarian eatery started in Europe and has slowly migrated to American. They make the best falafels that come with Belgian fries and an all you can eat salad bar that has such options as sautéed broccoli, seasoned carrots and tomato salad to name a few. Everything is made fresh (even their juices and lemonade is made fresh). This place is absolutely delicious, and as a meat lover myself I’ve never left there unsatisfied. For a full review of Maoz, check out A Skinny Girl’s Guide to Eating or check out these other vegetarian-friendly eateries on Yelp NYC. Happy Dating!

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Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places…Until Now!

How many times have you said to yourself “dating would be a lot easier if I had someone to sift through all the losers, creepers and dummies!” Well guess what…someone has!! Time Out magazine has pulled other people looking for love and have made them available in one place. Right now they have hotties ready and waiting to date in New York City and Chicago. Time Out London, although not as extensive as the other two cities, can get you the hook up so that you can hook up as well. Happy Hunting!

*This is not an actual guy from Time Out. I’m sorry If I got your hopes up.

Caught with Egg on Your Facebook

Dear Guru

So I’ve been dating this guy, but I think I’ve completely obliterated any chances that I might have had with him. I was on Facebook one day casually perusing pictures of him, when I cam across pictures of him and his ex-girlfriend. I had only heard him talk about her, but I wanted to see what she looks like and…well…let’s just say that I accidently tagged myself in pictures of him and his ex-girlfriend. And he knows about it. I. Need. Help. NOW!!!!!

Yours truly,

Facebook Foul up

Dear Facebook,

A little part of me died from embarrassment when I read this, so I can’t even imagine how you’re feeling. No matter how great Facebook can be, never forget that when it comes to dating (and especially in the early stages of dating) Facebook if your frenemy! Let me say that again: Facebook is your frenemy!! Now, don’t get me wrong. Facebook is my favorite and I’m always on it, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had other women tell me how Facebook has derailed an otherwise really good relationship.

Using Facebook to send funny youtube movies, share jokes or to just check in is perfectly fine, but using Facebook to do recon work is never the best of ideas. What you should do is…come clean. There’s really no other way around this; you were obviously looking at his pictures. Or you could tell him that you got in a fight with one of your friends and to get back at you she hacked into your Facebook account and tagged you in those pictures. Whichever works best for you. I hope, though, that in the future if you want to know something about the person that you’re dating you’ll just ask them. Sure it’s old fashion, but it tends to prevent such situations as your Facebook kerfuffle from happening. However, if this tactic is a little too dated for you, watch the video below and learn how the pros do it.

How To Dig Up Dirt on Your Date on Howcast

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Flirt Like the Rest of Them

Dear Guru,

As someone who has a hard time flirting with guys, I find that the majority of the advice out there is really unhelpful. A lot of my friends are really good at it, so good that they can literally walk up to a guy and have them drooling over them in a few seconds. I want to have A game but right now I’m definitely an F student. How can I improve?

Kindly,

The Class Dunce

Dear Dunce,

Rest assure that you are not the only dummy in the classroom. I too have problems macking on guys and I definitely think that the majority of advice out there is super ridiculous. When I try to wink I look like I have a twitch and since I have short hair trying to toss it over my shoulder really just looks like I’m jerking my head from left to right. All in all, it makes for a hot mess of a situation. But here’s something new to try: flirting like a guy. Ever wonder why the grossest gremlin in the club is always hitting on women who are way out of his league? Maybe they're being delusional, or maybe there’s something more to it. Maybe they, and all guys have a tactic that we women should be prescribing to. Read How to Flirt Like A Guy and let the games begin! Happy Dating!

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Lip Service Parte Deux

Wow!! A lot of people must not know how to kiss because people went nuts for the first Lip Service post. Now that more and more of you have become better kissers, here is another tutorial for the more advanced and adroit lip locker out there. Happy Kissing!

How To Kiss With Passion on Howcast

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Lip Service

Dear Guru,

I was sitting in my apartment living room totally making out with this boy when all of a sudden he pulls away from and says that I’m a bad kisser and that maybe we should just watch T.V. WTF!! I have never in my life had anyone tell me that I was a bad kisser…but then again I’ve never had anyone tell me that I was a good kisser. What gives? What should I do?Sincerely,

Kissing and Confused

Dear Kissing,

Oh shnap!! That must of hurt pretty bad. It’s always hard to hear that your skills aren’t quite as good as you think you they are. But if I were you, I would see this as an opportunity to improve. Check out this How Cast video about kissing. I’m sure that after watching it you’ll be kissing like a champ! Happy dating!

How To Be a Good Kisser on Howcast

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Welcome to The Dating Guru Dating Advice Blog

Greetings and Salutations! Welcome to The Dating Guru, the dating blog that along with discussing the dating dilemmas of women everywhere provides dating advice from gurus who actually know what they’re talking about. Want to know why he hasn’t called in a while or why all of a sudden he seems to be embarrassed to be seen with you in public? We won’t just tell you that it’s because he’s just not that into you, but we’ll tell you why! So if you have a burning dating question, come ask the Guru. I promise you won't be disappointed. Happy Dating!

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